Some Tips on Planning Your Child’s Spring Break With Your Ex
Spring break usually brings about the feeling of excitement and carefree days that let you unwind. However, for co-parents, spring break can be a time of stress and quarrels. Just like the majority of holidays, spring break can create problems regarding logistics, schedules, and communication. While it is easy to get overwhelmed with all the hassle that spring break can bring about, it is vital to remember why you are doing it – your children. Putting them first and working with your ex can give your children a spring break they can look back on with fond memories. If you stay focused and follow these tips, you will be well on your way to an enjoyable spring break.
Establish Rules and A Schedule You Can Fall Back On
The first tip requires some foresight and is all about rules. The best thing couples can do is create a plan that works for both parties. This should be talked about before a Parenting Plan, and a time-sharing agreement is signed. While this does sound like a simple step, it is likely that many people do not account for all holidays in such a stressful time.
If spring break is approaching, and you have no plans, it is best to set up a time to talk to your ex-partner. Depending on your current relationship with your ex-partner, you can work out a solution that meets everyone’s needs. Popular compromises include taking turns for major holidays. Others prefer splitting spring break into two parts, allowing both parents to spend some quality time with the child. Some people even consider going on a “family” vacation for the sake of the children. This all depends on your relationship with your ex-partner. No matter what solution you come to, it is vital to be open to a respectful and constructive conversation. Be flexible.
Put the Child First
Remember that childhood is a special time that creates the foundation for who we become. For the sake of the children, it is vital to put their needs first. Giving them the best experience is the end goal. If your co-parent has a great plan that seems like a good time for your child, let them enjoy it. Do not keep children from having fun just to get one over on an ex-partner. What goes for one partner should also go for the other. Let them know if you have any fun activities or experiences in mind, and see if you can take the child with you. If there seems to be resistance from either party, try alternating spring breaks from one year to the next, or split the break into two. If that fails, you will need to refer to the Parenting Plan.
Spring break is a great time to kick back and recharge. Do not spend that valuable time bickering and arguing with an ex. Instead, take some initiative and approach the matter with the child’s best interest in mind.
To discuss a Parenting Plan or other family law issues contact Debora A. Diaz, Esq. at 727-846-1802. Attorney Diaz concentrates only on Divorce and Family Law matters. She is also a Supreme Court Certified Family Mediator.
Written by Debora A. Diaz, Esq.